Well, everyone seems to be blogging lately, so I thought what the heck...might as well give it a whirl. Now I'm not the most creative person in the world so we'll see how it goes.
Anyways, I guess the thing on my mind lately is trying to have a baby. Now, this has becoming a frustrating adventure for me and my husband. We started trying in May and are still trying. I know....we have not been trying that long and I understand that it can take a while. Even for someone who is healthy. In September I started doing the ovulation test strips. I have used about 25 of them everyday since I am irregular. Apparently, I do not ovulate. My hubby and I have a doctor's appointment on Tuesday with our pcp who will likely give us a referral for an ob gyn.
The thing that frustrates me as I have been following a few blogs (i will not name names here) and talking to a few people. I understand that when people give birth they have a perfect plan for what they want to happen. The thing that really upsets me as when this plan fails then people become very upset and think they are failures or blame hospitals or blame who knows. I know I can't possibly understand what that feeling feels like because I have never given birth but people seem to be loosing sight that here they have a healthy blessing sitting in front of them. I wish people could just be thankful for what they have because a baby is truly a gift from God regardless of how it gets here. Just ask my parents.
I agree. The success of one's parenthood should be based around the actual parenting over the child's lifetime, not around the meesly 9 months of pregnancy. No one really knows the perfect pregnancy procedures. It is more important to just be happy with the gift they are givne.
ReplyDeleteP.S. Glad you started a blog. I feel like my blog is my only real contact with the outside world. I'm so glad I can follow along with a little bit of your life now, even if I'm not there.
ReplyDeleteI enjoy reading your blog too :) Hooray for having a follower. Thanks for joining.
ReplyDeleteKari-I wasn't allowed to have any kind of birth plan; having a high risk PG meant I had no say, whatsoever, in how my son would enter the world. For those of us with high risk PGs, we lose control of the majority, if not all, of our pregnancies. Can we pee? Does it need to be tested? How many blood draws this week? Did I take my pills at the right time? How about my injections? Wait, I can't walk, move, even PEE when I am being induced? I am 100% confined to a bed for upwards of 24 hours? Do I get a say in my epidural? NO?!?! We lose everything. Even so, I've never once complained or thought negatively of my birth story/plan. I recognize every second of every day that losing all control of my PG meant trusting in god and my doctors, and gave me a healthy boy.
ReplyDeleteNow, with all of that said, there's a LOT of societal pressure, and expectation, to have the birth go according to plan. It was hard to not feel ashamed that I wasn't strong enough after 3 hours of pushing, to deliver Gavin healthily and the means they had to extract him with contributed to his NICU stay. There's a sense of failure that you don't know you will feel. You've waited so long, endured so much, for this point, and you just want it to go according to plan. But, now from this side, nothing about children and babies are predictable, so why should their birth?!?! :)
Thank you Catherine. You brought up some really good points. I can understand the disappointment someone must feel when a birth plan does not go the way someone intends for it. However, I do have a problem when people can't let it go even though a healthy baby was brougth into this world.
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